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THE DONKEY ATTITUDE

One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously
for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided
the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just
wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a
shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized
what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement he
quieted down.
A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was
astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the
donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step
up.

As the farmer’s neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he
would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon,
everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and
happily trotted off!

MORAL :
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting
out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles
is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not
stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred – Forgive.

2. Free your mind from worries – Most never happen.

3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less

You have two choices…smile and close this page, or pass this along to
someone else to spread the fun. I know what I did!!

by: “candra” milliszhiepman@yahoo.co.id

August 9, 2008 Posted by | Soul's Medicine | Leave a comment

A Turkey and A Bull (Shit??)

A turkey was chatting with a bull. “I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree” sighed the turkey, “but I haven’t got the energy.”

”Well, why don’t you nibble on some of my droppings?” replied the bull. “They’re packed with nutrients.”

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree.

The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at the top of the tree. He was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot him out of the tree.

Moral of the story:
Bull Shit might get you to the top, but it won’t keep you there.

July 18, 2008 Posted by | Soul's Medicine | Leave a comment

Just Friends VS Best Friends

A Just Friend says..hi,..hello, ..bye,… and walks away…

A Best friend always stop by your side & asks how r u doing ??

 

A Just Friend has never seen you cry.

A Best friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.

 

A Just Friend thinks the friendship is over, when you have an argument.

A Best friend knows that it’s not a friendship, until after you’ve had a fight.

 

A Just Friend hates it when you call, after he has gone to bed.

A Best friend asks you…. why you took so long to call.

 

A Just Friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.

A Best friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.

 

A Just Friend jealous about your romantic history.

A Best friend wonders of your love story…..

 

A Just Friend expects you to be always there for any help.

A Best friend is always there, wherever you require any help.

 

A Just Friend doesn’t have time in his/her busy schedule,

A Best friend always have time for you in his/her busy schedules… .

 

A Just Friend phones you whenever he/she has some work,

A Best friend calls you often just to hear your voice…..

 

A Just Friend doesnt have anything to talk to you on phone,

A Best friend doesnt know…what all to finish…

 

By: Rajini

July 3, 2008 Posted by | Soul's Medicine | Leave a comment

Do’s and Don’t’s of Dealing With Anger

We all experience anger. Managed in healthy ways, anger can be a positive thing — a red flag that something’s wrong, a catalyst for change, a good self-motivator. Handled poorly, anger can cause health and relationship problems. (See this article for more on the negative effects of anger.) For many, especially those who didn’t have positive role models for anger management while growing up, dealing with anger can be confusing; it’s hard to know what to do with such a powerful and potentially destructive emotion. Examining your anger and using other anger management techniques can positively impact your health, relationships and overall happiness. It’s simple to do. Here are some proven anger management strategies.

 

Understand Your Anger

Dealing with anger is much easier when you know what you’re really angry about. Sometimes people may feel generally irritable because of stress, sleep deprivation, and other factors; more often, there’s a more specific reason for the anger. Either way, you can become more aware of what’s behind your anger if you keep an anger journal (a record of what makes you angry throughout the day) for a few weeks, then talk it over with a good friend, or even see a therapist to uncover underlying sources of anger, if you find yourself stumped. Once you are more aware of your sources of anger, you can take steps to deal with it.

 

Express Yourself—Constructively

Research shows that writing about anger and expressing it constructively can help reduce negative mood and even pain, particularly if the writing leads to ‘meaning-making,’ or speculation into the causes of the anger. This research, as well as other research on the benefits of journaling, supports the effectiveness of writing down your feelings and working through them on paper. The written expression of anger allows you to actively do something with your anger rather than just letting it make you feel bad.

 

Take Action

Your anger is telling you something. The first part of dealing with anger, as discussed, is examining it and listening to what it’s telling you about your life. The next part involves taking action. Knowing why you’re upset can go a long way, but eliminating your anger triggers and fixing problems that make you angry are equally important. You may not be able to eliminate everything in your life that causes you anger and frustration, but cutting out what you can should go a long way.

 

Don’t Obsess

Ruminating on your anger isn’t actually helpful. Studies show that, among other things, those who have a tendency to ruminate over situations that have made them angry in their past tend to experience higher blood pressure as a result, putting them at greater risk for organ damage and associated health problems. Trying to solve a problem is a good idea, but stewing in your anger is not.

 

Don’t Over-talk It

Discussing your anger is a tricky thing. Talking about your anger with a trusted friend can be an effective strategy for dealing with anger — to a point. It can help you better understand your feelings, brainstorm problem-solving strategies, and strengthen your relationship. However, there’s also evidence that repeatedly discussing topics that make you angry with your friends can actually make you both feel worse, and increase stress hormones in your blood. If you’re dealing with anger by talking to friends about it, it’s best to talk about a situation only once, exploring solutions as well as your feelings. Most of us –especially the women — have been involved in conversations that are basically complaint sessions or downward spirals of negative emotion; it’s best to change the subject to a happier topic before it gets that far. If you find yourself wanting to talk a lot about what is making you angry, it might be a good idea to schedule a few sessions with a therapist, who may have some effective ideas on dealing with anger.

Sources:
Byrd-Craven J, Geary DC, Rose AJ, Ponzi D. Co-ruminating increases stress hormone levels in women. Hormones and Behavior, March 2008.
Gerin W, Davidson KW, Christenfeld NJ, Goyal T, Schwartz JE. The role of angry rumination and distraction in blood pressure recovery from emotional arousal. Psychosomatic Medicine, January-February 2006.
Graham JE, Lobel M, Glass P, Lokshina I. Effects of written anger expression in chronic pain patients: making meaning from pain. Journal of Behavioral Medicine, March 6, 2008.

July 1, 2008 Posted by | Soul's Medicine | Leave a comment

Pelajaran dari Buah & Sayuran

1. Jadilah Jagung, Jangan Jambu Monyet.
Jagung membungkus bijinya yang banyak, sedangkan jambu monyet
memamerkan bijinya yang cuma satu-satunya.

Jangan pamer…kecuali kalo lagi pameran .

2. Jadilah pohon Pisang.
Pohon pisang kalau berbuah hanya sekali, lalu mati.

Kesetiaan dalam pernikahan .

3. Jadilah Duren, jangan kedondong
Walaupun luarnya penuh kulit yang tajam, tetapi dalamnya lembut dan
manis. hmmmm, beda dengan kedondong, luarnya mulus, rasanya agak asem
dan didalemnya ada biji yang berduri.

Walaupun penampakanku kasar tapi aku lembut loh…

4. Jadilah bengkoang.
Walaupun hidup dalam kompos sampah, tetapi umbinya isinya putih
bersih.

Jagalah hati jangan kau nodai meskipun…kamu mainnya di tempat
sampah,
hehehehe…

5. Jadilah Padi.
Makin berisi, makin merunduk. Tapi awas ada wereng…

6. Jadilah Pohon kelapa.
Sudah terkenal dengan serba gunanya, tidak bisa di manipulasi
(maksudnya kelapa ngak bisa dicangkok.)

7. Jadilah tandan Pete, bukan tandan rambutan.
Tandan pete membagi makanan sama rata ke biji petenya, semua
seimbang, ngak seperti rambutan : ada yang kecil ada yang gede .

8. Jadilah cabe .
Makin tua makin pedes, makin tua makin judes loh..!!! (baca =
bijaksana)

9. Jadilah buah manggis
Bisa ditebak isinya dari bokong buahnya, maksudnya jangan munafik
…hmmmm

10. Jadilah buah nangka
Selain buahnya, nangka memberi getah kepada penjual atau yg
memakannya, artinya berikan kesan kepada semua orang (tentunya yg
baek).

June 29, 2008 Posted by | Soul's Medicine | Leave a comment

When I …..

When I Asked God for Strength

He Gave Me Difficult Situations to Face

When I Asked God for Brain & Brown

He Gave Me Puzzles in life to Solve

When I Asked God for Happiness

He Showed Me Some Unhappy People

When I Asked God for Wealth

He Showed Me How to Work Hard

When I Asked God for Favors

He Showed Me opportunities to Work Hard

When I Asked God for Peace

He Showed Me How to Help Others

God Gave Me Nothing I Wanted

He Gave Me Everything I Needed

– Swami Vivekananda

June 28, 2008 Posted by | Soul's Medicine | Leave a comment

The Mouse, the Frog, and the Hawk

A Mouse who always lived on the land, by an unlucky chance, formed an intimate acquaintance with a Frog, who lived, for the most part, in the water. One day, the Frog was intent on mischief. He tied the foot of the Mouse tightly to his own. Thus joined together, the Frog led his friend the Mouse to the meadow where they usually searched for food.
 
After this, he gradually led him towards the pond in which he lived, until reaching the banks of the water, he suddenly jumped in, dragging the Mouse with him. The Frog enjoyed the water amazingly, and swam croaking about, as if he had done a good deed.
 
The unhappy Mouse was soon sputtered and drowned in the water, and his poor dead body floating about on the surface. A Hawk observed the foating Mouse from the sky, and dove down and grabbed it with his talons, carrying it back to his nest.
 
The Frog, being still fastened to the leg of the Mouse, was also carried off a prisoner, and was eaten by the Hawk.
 
MORAL : “Choose your allies carefully”

June 28, 2008 Posted by | Soul's Medicine | 1 Comment

Welcome to the Republican Party

So, I was talking to this little girl, Catherine, the  daughter of  some friends,  and she said she wanted to be President some day.

Both of her parents,  liberal Democrats, were standing there with us –  and I asked Catherine  –
‘If you  were President what would be the first thing you would do?’

Catherine  replied – ‘I would give houses to all the homeless people.’

‘Wow – what  a worthy goal you have there, Catherine.’ I told her,

‘You don’t have  to wait until you’re President to do that, you can  come over to my house and  clean up all the dog poop in my back yard  and I will pay you $5  dollars.

Then we can go over to the grocery store where the homeless  guy hangs  out, and you can give him the $5 dollars to use for a new  house.’

Catherine (who was about 4) thought that over for a second,  while her  mom looked at me seething, and Catherine replied, ‘Why doesn’t the  homeless guy come over and clean up the dog poop and you can just pay  him the  $5 dollars?’

And I said, “Welcome to the Republican  Party”.

June 28, 2008 Posted by | Humor, Soul's Medicine | Leave a comment

What Are the Secrets of Happy People?

Happiness is an age-old and sometimes elusive goal. Virtually all people want to be happy people, which is good, because happy people are better off, for reasons both obvious and subtle. Obviously, it feels good to be happy. But, looking deeper, happy people tend to enjoy benefits that unhappy people don’t.

For one thing, they tend to enjoy more successes in life. You may be thinking that happiness and success go hand-in-hand because success causes happiness, not the other way around. Researchers at the University of California in Riverside thought about this, too. So they set out to test that hypotheses, and found happiness is associated with (and precedes) several successful outcomes, as well as behaviors that go along with success, proving that the relationship goes both ways: Success brings happiness, but happiness actually does bring success, too.

Another benefit that happy people share is good health. Studies have found that happy people experience lower levels of cortisol in their saliva, lower blood pressure, lower ambulatory heart rate in men, and reduced neuroendocrine, inflammatory, and cardiovascular activity. All this leads to greater health, which is definitely something to be happy about!

 

What Happy People Have In Common

So, what makes happy people, well, happy people? It seems that happy people tend to have a few things in common. Very happy people are found to be very social, and have stronger romantic and social relationships with others than less-happy people. Research has also found happy people to be energetic, decisive, creative, social, trusting, loving, and responsive. Rather than being strongly linked to external characteristics like socioeconomic status, gender or age, happiness is more positively associated with having a philosophical view of life, using laughter and humor, being able to relate to others, having problem-solving skills, engaging in meaningful pursuits and leisure activities, living in a positive environment, and maintaining a well-balanced lifestyle.

 

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Sources:

Davidhizar R, Vance A. Today’s OR Nurse. July – August 1994.

Diener E, Seligman ME. Very happy people. Psychological Science. January, 2002.

Lyubomirsky S, King L, Diener E. The benefits of frequent positive affect: does happiness lead to success? Psychological Bulletin. November, 2005.

Steptoe A, Wardle J. Positive affect and biological function in everyday life. Neurobiology of Aging. December, 2005.

June 26, 2008 Posted by | Soul's Medicine | Leave a comment

The Love Story Of Ralph And Edna

Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

Ralph and Edna were both patients in a mental hospital. One day while they were walking past the hospital swimming pool. Ralph suddenly jumped into the deep end. He sank  to the bottom of the pool and stayed there.

 Edna promptly jumped in to save him. She swam to the bottom and pulled him out. When the Head Nurse Director became aware of Edna’s heroic act  she immediately ordered her to be discharged from the hospital, as she  now considered her to be mentally stable.

 When she went to tell Edna the news she said, ‘Edna, I have good news and bad news. The good news is you’re being discharged, since you were  able to rationally respond to a crisis by jumping in and saving the life  of the person you love. I have concluded that your act displays sound mindedness.
The bad news is, Ralph hung himself in the bathroom with his bathrobe belt right after you saved him. I am so sorry, but he’s dead.’

 Edna replied, ‘He didn’t hang himself. I put him there to dry. How soon can I go home?’

June 26, 2008 Posted by | Soul's Medicine | Leave a comment